Between work, school, kids, relationships, and other obligations, it can be very easy to lose ourselves in the hustle and bustle of life. Do you ever find yourself saying, “Well next year I’ll do that,” or “I’ll get into (insert new hobby here) when I have more time.”? No just me! Lies…


But the reality is that life is happening now, and ladies under 30 need to take advantage of this primetime period in your life to explore new hobbies, take a few (semi-calculated) risks, and go outside of your comfort zones. I mean, isn’t life all about having new experiences and make new memories?

Here’s a list I’ve compiled of a few things that you could put on your “30 before 30” bucket list.

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30. Learn a foreign language.

Download an app on your phone and learn a few phrases, they might come in handy for #26…

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29. Date someone completely not “your type.”

Always dating a certain type of guy? Date someone you normally never pick for yourself and see where it goes!

Teenage girl doing yoga

28. Learn to meditate.

Yoga and meditation are two of the best hidden secrets on stress relief and healthy living. Try to meditate your way through that next stressful situation.


27. Completely change your personal style.

Revamp your style and your closet. You could find some amazing inspiration in your new look!

woman standing near Eiffel Tower

26. Travel.

You don’t have to wait until the kids are grown or you’ve finished that degree to see the world. Make it a priority to treat yourself to that trip to your dream destination.

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25. Open a small business or start a website.

With so many resources available on how to turn your passion into a paycheck, you could discover a truly awesome opportunity by putting your interests to work for you!

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24. Mentor someone.

Being a positive influence in someone’s life is equally beneficial for both of you, and you’ll feel good about the positive influence you’ve had in that person’s life.


23. Go skydiving!

Yes, it sounds crazy. Crazy EXCITING! Grab a friend and do something that you will never forget! The adrenaline rush alone can be a life-changing experience! Watch me do the indoor version here!


22. Make a dream board.

Get some magazines and make a dream or vision board for where you see yourself in one, three, five or even 10 years! That visual reminder will be a great source of motivation as you work towards your goals.

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21. Learn how to whip up a gourmet meal.

Have a specialty meal that you can bring to that potluck or make for your date the first time he comes over for dinner.

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20. Kiss A Stranger.

Next time you’re huddled with your girls at the club, be ballsy and just go up to that cute guy that you’ve been eyeing all night and lay one on him! Not only will you feel like a rock star, but it’ll definitely spice up the night!


19. Audition for something crazy.

Always wanted to be on a reality show? Want to join your local co-ed softball team? Stop talking yourself out of it and go for it!

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18 A. Get your heart-broken

I know, it sucks. And you’re probably wondering why it’s on this list. But there’s a special period of growth and intra-personal discovery that is only realized after that first real heartbreak. Listen to Adele, drink wine, and tell yourself that its going to be okay, because it will.

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18 B. Fall in love with a man (not a boy).

Yes, I know just said get your heartbroken. But after that trauma, guess what happens? Someone waaaaaaay better comes along, and you’ll have to be ready! He will be someone who truly loves you and appreciates you. A man with a vision and true character. Cherish this man. Treat him right. Its going to be awesome.

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17. Go on an all-girls trip.

Go get your groove back and drink a few margaritas with your best girlfriends. It’s sure to be filled with many wonderful memories and will bring you beauties closer than ever.

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16. Find a sport or physical activity that you love.

Running. Yoga. Pilates. Soccer. Weight lifting. Whatever it is, just do it! Discovering whatever it is that gets your heart pumping and your blood flowing. It will benefit you both physically, and emotionally. It can help you make friends, boost self-confidence, and lower depression levels on average. Plus its fun!


15. Start doing your dream job (in any way you can).

A lot of times our 9-to-5 doesn’t quite match up with our dream job situation in our head. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t do it, in some capacity. Want to be a fashion designer? Become a contributor to your favorite fashion site or magazine. Want to be a teacher? Volunteer at the local pre-school or with your church’s Sunday school program. Just because you’re not getting paid for yet for it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t pursue it.

woman having a cocktail

14. Be single and enjoy it.

It is vital that you not only learn how to live alone, but learn how to be comfortable in your own skin and enjoy your own company.


13. Learn how to change a tire.

You don’t have to be Tim the Toolman under the hood of a car, but you should at least know the basics when you get into a pinch.

woman wearing little black dress looking out of the window

12. Find the perfect little black dress.

Just like Beyoncé said, “every woman’s got one” that hugs your curves and makes you feel like a goddess. Plus, the perfect LBD can be worn at an assortment of events.

without passion life is nothing

11. Find your passion.

What in the world makes you want to get out there and conquer the world? As soon as you find that, life will never be in the same, in the best kinda way.

Coachella Valley Music & Arts Festival 2010 - Day 1

10. Go to your favorite artist’s concert.

It’s nothing like seeing your absolute favorite artist, live and in person. Get a tour t-shirt, sing your heart out and take pics, the experience will be unforgettable to say the least.

couple campling

9. Become “One with nature.”

I need to take my own advice on this one because I am anything but a nature girl. But spend some time in nature and contemplate the beauty of the world around you. Whether it be on a nature hike, a camping trip or climbing Mount Everest, there’s something about fresh air and chirping birds that puts life into a new perspective.

Charity team of women walking in a walk for cure

8. Fight for a cause.

There are so many causes that we have to fight for and they’re all looking for more dedicated people to help advance their agenda. Have a family history of breast cancer? Do the local breast cancer awareness run next time it rolls around. Have a love for special needs children? Volunteer in their class at a school nearby. You’ll feel great about making a difference and your community will be better for it. Double win.

Women pulling faces making photos on phone.

7. Figure out who your real friends are.

Throughout our teens and early twenties, we are intertwined in complex and ever-changing female friendships. Navigating the winding roads of gossip, “shade,” and backstabbing gets tiresome. By 30, you should know who is really on your team, and who really needs to go. Your sanity will thank you later.

woman checking hair in mirror

6. Embrace your fabulousness.

Don’t let the insecurity and uncertainty of your twenties creep into the next awesome decade of your life. Learn to be kind to yourself, take constructive criticism in stride, and be confident in your abilities. Everyone knows you’re awesome; so should you!

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5. Let go of your past.

There is something that all of us could benefit from letting go. Accept the past, your mistakes and the things that may have happened to you, and then decide that you won’t let it define your life anymore.

Mother and daughter unpacking groceries in kitchen

4. Get close(r) with your mom.

Getting close with your mom, or another older female family member or friend, can be an enlightening and joyous bonding experience. As we get older, we start to be able to relate to our mother not only as their daughter, but as women. She can give you valuable guidance and insight about life that you just can’t get anywhere else. I wrote a book about mine –> Things I Wish I Knew Before My Mom Died

couple kissing on vacation

3. Have a vacation romance.

Have a fun, flirty romance with a nice stranger on vacation. Every relationship doesn’t have to be a marathon in order to be an epic love story.

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2. Learn how to play an instrument.

With so many to choose from and so many YouTube videos to learn from, not only will you learn a unique skill, but you can also get years of enjoyment from learning an instrument and recreating some of your favorite songs.

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1. Fall completely in love… with yourself.

Of all of the things on this list, falling in love with yourself is the most satisfying, freeing, and important of all. Own your quirks, talents, shortcomings, and strengths; fully and completely. There is no one on this planet quite like you, so love and cherish everything about your fabulous self!

Whether you are turning 30, 25, or 40 use any of these bucket list ideas to become the best person you can be this year. In the meantime, let me know what you’re planning to try on this list. If you liked this post you can thank me by leaving a comment or sharing this post on social media.

Text by – Melanie Harris




  1. January 14, 2014 / 1:39 pm

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  2. April 22, 2014 / 4:51 pm


  3. Emily Rose
    January 6, 2015 / 6:54 pm

    This is really cute! Love the list. Currently sticking loads of these ideas onto my ’30 Before 30′ list!

  4. April 26, 2015 / 5:06 pm

    Hi Ty – Love this article! Trying to fill out my “30 before 30” list and love your suggestions. I am in love with that dream board idea – I am so going to do that!
    I do have skydiving on my list – I think I phrased it “Go Skydiving (eep!)”

    If you need to get out in nature some more, I bet there are some great guided hikes in your area – that could be a fun adventure!

  5. November 3, 2016 / 2:21 pm

    These are great pics. I’m using #25 for my MBA presentation! Thanks

  6. July 19, 2017 / 7:26 pm

    Ok, I only have 8 items to complete on the list of 30. I’m feeling really good about myself

  7. July 19, 2017 / 7:28 pm

    I forgot to mention that I kisssd 30 goodbye years ago.

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