Stacy London Shoot

Although my lifestyle usually dictates that I’m in New York, my residence is still in Maryland. Often times I even miss out on opportunities because I can’t make the 4-hour bus ride in time (a few hundred dollars gets me an hour via plane if I’m fancy). I’ve been plotting my move to the Big Apple for the past year but I have let the fear of change and the uncertain rule my life. Everyone that I’ve talked to about my move all suggest that I just pack up a few belongs put the rest in storage and just couch it out until I get a job and find my way. Is anyone else cringing at the thought of this? I mean, I am not in my 20’s anymore and stability is more attractive the older I get. But does that trump the passion I have for writing about fashion and beauty? Nope.  Let’s rewind to Friday shall we?



I had the opportunity to work with Stacy London (from TLC’s What Not To Wear) on her upcoming book. My experience is the inspiration for this blog post title. First, let me admit that I’m a fan of Stacy London but I haven’t watched her show in years. Mainly because I am strapped for cash and cable was the first thing to go.

So naturally I was excited about the opportunity but it hadn’t really hit me when I got there. I spent the better half of the day trying on amazing brands that I’m familiar with but can’t afford right now. Even when Stacy arrived it was surreal. Stacy asked me questions about my wardrobe and my life in general. I tried to put my normal protective shell up but she dug right into it and the tears came.

I can’t even remember what she said. It was just the encouragement in her eyes. Or maybe it was the “you can do it” tone in her voice. The more Stacy talked to me the more I knew I had to get off my booty and make some things happen.

Being selected for her project was just confirmation that I have a voice and it needs to be heard. I mean I’m a star!


Back to today.

After submitting my resume for the past 9 months to tons of publications and websites for editor positions I had given up. I said to myself, maybe this isn’t my journey. I met with my mastermind team (my good girlfriends – Bethany and BJ) and I pushed the reset button. I’m kicking fear in the butt and vowing never to turn back again.

 Here are a few steps I’m gonna take that I know will get me a little closer to the BIG APPLE:

Save $2500. Shame on me for not having anything in my savings but it is what it is. No more HH unless you’re buying lol. After I’ve saved $2500+ I swear to pack my bags and run to the nearest MegaBus stop and head to the Big Apple.

Write Write Write! – I think Hemingway says it best. “I hate writing but I have loved having written something”. One of my biggest issues (outside of fear) is procrastination. I love reading my blog. I love when you read my blog (I love comments even more) But when I get home from work after a long day I can’t even see straight, let alone think of great original content to share. So I’m going to journal more. Jot down ideas, funny quotes I hear – anything that sparks my creativity. Bottom line is that I’m not gonna get those freelance jobs that I desire if my content here (and on the websites that I contribute to) is weak.

Attend at least 3 events a month and make at least 3 new connections. Whoever thinks that just your talent is going to catapult you into the life you dream of is totally lying to you. It has been and always will be about who you know. Or who you don’t know in my case.

Disclosure: Compensation was provided by Honda via Glam Media.  The opinions expressed herein are those of the author and are not indicative of the opinions or positions of Honda.



  1. Tracy H
    January 30, 2012 / 12:08 pm

    I too am going kick my fear of doing anything wrong in the butt! I am going to do what I want and forget about what everyone thinks!

    • Tracy H
      January 30, 2012 / 7:38 pm

      Just a thought… I know that textbook publishers are always looking for editorial help – and most of them have offices in New York! My company didn’t have anything open but you could try Bedford St. Martins, McGraw-Hill, and Pearson Education. It might be worth a shot to help get you to the Big Apple!!

  2. Terrell Needam
    January 30, 2012 / 12:12 pm

    You can do it! Im so proud of you. I love reading what you have to say.

  3. January 30, 2012 / 12:31 pm

    What a wonderful post Ty!!!! I think we can all let fear get in our way sometimes. I love that you have a set plan; New York is surely where you need to be. I oftentimes feel I need to be in a city where style creativity is a bit more rampant, but fear does creep in at times. Thanks for the inspiration! There is a great business idea I’ve been sitting on this month, and I really need to get moving on it, plus I want to publish a book based on a series on my blog…I’ve got work to do!!! <3 you!

  4. LyNe'
    January 30, 2012 / 1:15 pm

    Ty, you just gave me the added inspiration that I needed! I loooove everything that you do and I admire your ‘go-getter’ attitude. We all come across that hump of procrastination and the intimidation of fear, but we have to keep that ultimate goal in mind. You can do it, Ty! You’re already a winner, it’s time for you to see it too!

  5. January 30, 2012 / 1:25 pm

    Go for it, Love!!!!

  6. January 30, 2012 / 1:27 pm

    You are a star, destined for greatness! I’m proud of you… I’ve taken that leap before so I know all the feelings you have. The difference is … Well there is no difference but I believe you will make it work for you. You have my full support… That day is coming soon and I can’t wait to see you do what you love on the level that you are more than capable of doing it on!



    • Gorgeous In Grey
      January 30, 2012 / 1:45 pm

      Awwh! Thanks a million for always being here for me. TEARS!

  7. January 30, 2012 / 1:28 pm

    What a great post and I hear so much of myself in this… I need to take heed to your plan and really set my plan, get focused and just do it. I have let fear stop me from doing so many things in the past, and honestly I still struggle with it. But I do feel that I am getting closer and creating new and better habits that will no longer hinder me. Keep at it Ty and I’m telling myself the same thing! 🙂

  8. January 30, 2012 / 1:43 pm

    Great post, Ty! You can do it! And yes, I have a big leap that I’m taking very soon. Exciting and scary at the same time!

  9. January 30, 2012 / 2:47 pm

    Do it! I moved to NY right after college and haven’t regretted it one bit. The opportunities you have here will make you so happy to have made the leap. This year I’m considering a job that I would love that has a slight pay cut. I know it’s kind of a no no, at least in my eyes, but I would finally be happy with what I’m doing. And I would have more time to work on my blog, which is always a plus!

  10. January 30, 2012 / 10:52 pm

    That sounds like an amazing experience, lady!!!
    Omg, how did i not know you were from MD?!! Me too!

  11. January 31, 2012 / 10:31 am

    I took my big leap of faith in August 2011 when I packed myself, my husband, our 3 children and the hubs mother and moved to Jacksonville, Florida sight unseen and no job. Yeah I said it sight unseen and NO job! I was born and raised in New Jersey but always had a desire to live in a warm weather state and Florida was beckoning me so I answered the call. I am over 40 so this was not an easy feat to give up everything I have ever known to walk into the unknown but I have not looked back…not even once. I have had some really difficult times since arriving in Florida but I am determined to live out ALL of my dreams. You can do it, you are beautiful, talented and intelligent, NYC is waiting for your brilliance..don’t deny them!

  12. January 31, 2012 / 3:22 pm

    This is such an amazing post!!!! I too can relate and have decided to really push myself this year.

  13. January 31, 2012 / 6:58 pm

    Aww I want you to get to NYC ASAP! You are more than welcome on my couch 🙂

  14. January 31, 2012 / 11:30 pm

    First let me just say that I wholeheartedly enjoyed every single word in this post! What a great read and inspiration for the beginning of the year. Fear, support and procastination are probably the most common barriers we face when people like us want more than the staus quo. I say MOVE as soon as you can and stay focused (LOVE YOUR PLAN)…NY is def where u wanna be! And im with Rocquelle on my goals, I certainly want to write and publish a book but also find a job in my field so my passion can be moved more! Thanks for the added inspiration Ty!


  15. February 6, 2012 / 4:40 pm

    Awwwwwww Twin! My eyes are filled with water and I got chills! I see myself here. From one passionate lil girl to another, YOU CAN DO IT! Work your plan and it will happen. I am so proud of you for what you’ve accomplished thus far. Your passions and purpose will make room for you! xoxo

  16. February 6, 2012 / 5:24 pm

    just found your blog and this particular article really resonates with me! i’m 51 and i’ve FINALLY decided to pursue a life in makeup artistry. yep, pretty late in life, but i’m determined, with or without outside encouragement. i’ve let the opinions of others (read “nay-sayers”) get in my way for wayyyy too long. i’m just starting to come out of a fairly major depressive episode, so those demons of self-doubt have also played a part in my shying away from taking the leap. i will keep you in prayer that HE will not let you fall once you take that leap. spread your wings and fly, and don’t just fly, SOAR into your future! blessisngs

  17. February 14, 2012 / 1:11 pm

    Let me just say I’m in tears here…I want nothing more than to move to New York and I’ve been submitting my resume…saving $ being met with questions as to why I want to move and this post was just what I needed. A reminder not to give up. I’d said the only thing stopping me outside of a job and house lol was my at the time boyfriend but now that we’ve called it quits what’s stopping me?! THANK YOU for sharing this…I’m sure you had no idea it would impact others…I’m celebrating your success in advance…soon we’ll be meeting for a NY happy hour and calling it home!

  18. February 18, 2012 / 8:00 am

    I wish you the very best on your transition from Maryland to NYC. I encourage you to follow what drives you most; fashion and writing.

    Sisterly love and support.

  19. March 29, 2012 / 12:41 pm

    wow awesome post! very inspiring,

    This makes me want to take that leap of faith and tackle my goals one by one and stop being such a scary cat. Good luck on all your success YOU CAN DO IT GIRL !

  20. March 30, 2012 / 12:30 pm

    You have no idea hoe much this post speaks to me. I kinda geared up when you shared how your tears came when you let our guard down with Stacy. I get it . I’m in the same boat. I’m in a career that doesn’t fulfill me and my gifts really are writing and styling. Ive been having that feeling in my spine that I need to make things happen. I will pray for your journey and success.

  21. Courtney
    March 30, 2012 / 11:52 pm

    You have the right plan. I really like that you plan on networking. I need to work on networking.
    I’m taking a huge leap of faith by attending graduate school out of state in a few months. I’m really scared about finding a job when I’m done but I think if I network a lot and try to stand out (in a good way, of course), I’m destined to find something.
    I cannot play it safe in my life anymore and if I continue to stay in the state in which I was born and have been in my whole life, I’m playing it safe and I’ll continue to be somewhat unhappy about where I am.

    I wish you the best and I look forward to seeing you reach your goal. =)

  22. April 26, 2012 / 2:54 pm

    Of course we all face fear at some point or another…shoot, if anything that’s when you know s*** is about to get real lol. You’re only scared because it’s new, different, exciting…all the more reason to go for it. No excuses, just jump in. I just left the Navy 6 months ago after 11 years of being in. 9 more years and I could have retired and been set with a check every month until I die…but I chose to walk away because it wasn’t where my heart was (that actually gave me the strength to go). There were so many people who told me I shouldn’t get out, the conomy is bad, fashion isn’t a real job, you’ll be back…yadda yadda. In the end it boils down to this – you only get one life and it is too short to live doing something that doesn’t make you happy. Be happy 🙂

  23. May 28, 2012 / 1:00 pm

    This is my first time reading your blog, and what a great first post to be introduced to you with… girl you have amazing style and spirit, but I really admire your honestly and dedication.

    So many bloggers make it look so easy to just back your Jeffery Cambell’s up in a duffel bag and run away to New York with no plan and just let things work themselves out.

    I just can’t relate to that… I can relate to you though. Nervously anticipating the journey and trying to prepare so you can be a permanent fixture in the Big Apple. I really admire you, and I know you will make it. Just keep doing what you do best, and working hard girl! 🙂

    Your newest reader,

  24. Sherry Blossom
    July 6, 2012 / 1:31 pm

    You will be great and you will EXCEL…believe it…do IT!!!…a Native New Yorker in this concrete jungle where dreams are made up but I know if you pound the pavement hard enough the concrete will crack and opportunities will open up! GO GIRL!!

  25. November 29, 2012 / 12:10 am

    Girl! You are speaking to me and I feel like we’re in the same place. I can’t even begin to tell you what a relief it is to hear you speak this truth–dealing with fear and uncertainty and the ball of emotions that all brings. I have often heard that my fear is truly a fear of success, but I am excited and relieved to read about a determined and beautiful woman making the plan, setting the goals and walking boldly in the direction of those dreams. Thanks for the inspiration!

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