Me and moms hands

Loaded with lots of up’s and a few down’s (or maybe I should just call them challenges), these last few years have been one for the books as my elders would say.


I was on TV quite a bit (three times to be exact), I moved to NY, and then just before all of that greatness happened–my mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 Lymphoma.


(UPDATE 10/1/2015: My mother has since left this Earth for Heaven).

Yep that basically sums up my 2012. But surprisingly even after the news of my mother’s new challenge, I am still so beyond joyous for this journey we call life.

So when I thought of what my 2013 resolutions should be, I realized I had already begun working on a lot of them. I just hadn’t wrote them down or even committed them to memory. So here’s go. Really for my own reminder of sorts, and perhaps for you as inspiration!



 Gratitude: When my mother was diagnosed with cancer I was overwhelmed with feelings. From anger, to confusion, to sadness. But some where within the first five minutes of the news, I realized that God can’t possible hate my mother or my family. He won’t have us travel down this incredibly, almost insanely, difficult path without a purpose. So in order for me NOT to flip all the way over and out from watching my mother’s body deteriorate into nothingness, I had to find gratitude in this journey.

First I realized how many people never get to have a relationship with their parents. And here I have an amazing relationship with both of mine. And when I thought about the woman I had become, it was all my mother’s doing. From how I spoke to people, how I styled my hair, even to how I perceive my own beauty. It’s because of our conversations that I am who I am today. 

So I don’t want to waste ANY time thinking about how different she looks now, or how angry I am that it happened to her, I just cherish the moments I get to spend with her. I am grateful that even as bad as it may seem, I can still make her laugh. She still smiles when I walk in the room. So I will continue to focus on those things. 


 Purpose: I’ve been searching for what my purpose was for what seems like my whole life. My biggest question was, what do I want to do with the rest of my life? And then I realized that I was thinking about it way too hard. That my purpose was simple… to inspire and impact people to live. Whether it’s to inspire you to quit your job and move to New York… well that might not be your story, lol. But I might inspire you to try that pink lipstick I love so much, or travel to watch your first Broadway play. Who knows!

But I’ve come to realize I find great pleasure in inspiring you! So going into 2013, I’ll aim to inspire most people I interact with. 


 Faith: Oh yea about that… it only takes a mustard seed of it, right! I remember reading that scripture as a girl and not having one clue of what it meant. Somewhere when I got fed up with working for the government I replaced my fear with faith. But I noticed it wasn’t a one time action. I just couldn’t say “I got faith” and then be blessed abundantly.

I had to stop thinking about faith and really believe in it. I literally starting to replace the word think with believe. I believed that I could find a job that I loved in New York. I believed that could find a home for myself and the boo. So what can I believe to do in 2013. Sky’s the limit right?

Q: I know you guys have made your resolutions already… chime in below in the comments, & if you are a blogger feel free to leave your links so that I can read yours too!



  1. Meleisha Edwards
    January 9, 2013 / 10:43 pm

    Your story is so inspiring. I’m taking the big step
    of faith and moving to the New York area soon. It’s
    very scary, but I know God had my purpose there. Reading
    this is more confirmation. Praying for your mother and your
    perspective on her illness is remarkable. Gratitude is
    always they key… No matter the circumstance. Thank you.

  2. Charita
    February 1, 2013 / 1:41 pm

    You have inspired me to travel to NY and experience what life has to offer there. I was one of those people that was stuck in a place in my life where I thought I couldn’t do anything but work and maintain a living not a life. My story mirrors yours in a sense and it’s starting to unfold the same exact way. It’s scary to think about and I think my year this year is going the same way your year last year went and I’m choosing to live a life that I love and experience NY like I’ve always wanted to. Maybe a move will be in the cards for me too because I’ve always wanted to live there. Thanks for the tip on too! It helped a lot. Planning a trip to NY very soon!! Yay!!

  3. Charita
    February 1, 2013 / 1:47 pm

    My story is almost exactly like yours and reading this post gives me more confirmation that it may actually turn out the same too. I’m dealing with a parent with cancer also and let’s just say the emotions have been all over the place which tells me that it’s time for a change. My story is like yours only it’s happening this year. Thanks for the confirmation of how it may turn out because I’ve always wanted to live in NY just because of all the culture and experiences that you can get from being around so many different people. You recently gave me the idea of going to for travel stay. Thanks for this!!! You are inspiring me to do things I’ve always wanted to do. Keep inspiring!!!

  4. Charita
    February 1, 2013 / 1:48 pm

    2 posts…sorry!! Didn’t think it took the first one. LOL

  5. LB
    April 8, 2013 / 6:38 pm

    It’s been about 10 minutes since I finished reading your post. My fingers have been perched over the keyboard for that long. Mind racing about what to type. And I come up blank. The most that I can say is thank you. I’ve been toiling with the idea of faith, and purpose and gratitude lately. So I think there was a very divine purpose of me coming across your post. I thank God for you, I thank Him that you wrote such a beautiful post and that I got to see it. I wish you all the best. You, your mom and your family will be in my prayers.

  6. June 27, 2015 / 12:28 pm

    Thank you for reposting this. I am sitting her in tears. I am a breast cancer survivor and I can totally relate to all of the feelings that you experienced. This situation and other medical issues that I am still experiencing really brought me closer to God. While others saw it as a curse to me it was a gift. My attitude towards everything and everyone changed. I begin to appreciate the little things. My faith became my fortress and helped me to love others in a way that is beyond most people’s reckoning.

    I never knew that you lost your mother but I am sure she is in heaven smiling at the amazing woman you have become. As a educator I tell kids all the time, “you are a reflection and representation of your parenting to the world.” With that being said I am convinced you mother was an phenomenal woman.

  7. October 2, 2015 / 10:11 am

    I needed to see this. My mom was just diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer this week and I am trying to cope. Thank you.

    • October 3, 2015 / 3:36 am

      You are so very welcome! Email me anytime you need an encouraging word.

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