Turning 40 has been nothing short of a privilege for me. I remember having grown woman talks with my mother and my favorite aunties about the joys and downfalls of becoming a “real woman”. Because contrary to popular belief, becoming a woman doesn’t automatically happen at the age of 18 or when you’re out in the world paying bills believing that that’s adulting. My mother would tell me all of these stories about what being a woman meant to her both mentally, emotionally and physically. Her stories about going through menopause in the summer of 2001 is still both wildly hilarious and slightly miserable. But I remember yearning to get to that blissful place of being so grown that things don’t bother you anymore. And at 40 I am almost there!


The bad part about living longer is that your body might start to betray you. Betray is a harsh word but I need you to understand that you will have the same experiences at 20 and 40 and they be completely different. At 20, I could drink gallons of liquids all day long, with no consequence. At 40, that gallon means I’m visiting the bathroom every 25 minutes.


So I stopped drinking water!

Which ultimately caused all kinds of other problems. Then I did some research and learned that 1-in-3 women have bladder leaks. And 1-in-2 Black women 18yrs and older experience bladder leaks. And the real shocker is that only 1-in-9 use incontinence protection. Before my partnership with Always Discreet, I was that 1-in-9! #FacePalm.

For the longest time, I thought my experience with bladder leaks was my own isolated problem. Why are we ashamed? Because no one talks about this. But bladder leaks are a normal and common experience. It happens to most of us, if not all. It’s not something to be embarrassed and we should stop trying to avoid the topic.

So now that we’re all real friends

Let me tell how Always Discreet has been saving my life. The whole product line has liners, pads and underwear for adults. The RapidDry™ technology is the secret gem. It turns liquid into gel (cue sounds of joy) which is how their products can absorb more than other brands. Can I tell you that these liners from Always Discreet are becoming my favorite. They are so BAE! They’re easy to store discreetly in your purse but still big enough to do what they promise–protect! Funny how it wasn’t until I turned 40 that I felt like a grown woman. And that I finally get what my mother meant all of these years. I might just be so grown that these things didn’t bother me anymore! Like I said, I know I am not alone and since I’m being all candid and spilling my heart out to you, all I need you to do is the same thing (in the comments section!).

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  1. Jule G Lawrence
    July 14, 2017 / 4:50 pm

    Please do more on body betrayal after 40, 50 etc. What else is there besides bladder leakage??
    Fly and 55

  2. Tiffany
    July 18, 2017 / 8:12 pm

    Love your honesty, please continue to do more stores like this. It normalizes something that is typically so taboo. Love your blog, thanks Ty

  3. July 29, 2017 / 8:17 am

    Thanks for this. I have four children and my pelvic floor muscles have paid the price for these beautiful gifts of life. I have come to learn that so many women, with and without children, also suffer from incontinence. I do sit-ups differently now because of stress incontinence, I don’t wait until it’s urgent to use the bathroom, I’m working on strengthening my pelvic muscles, and most importantly I killed the shame. More people speaking up will help others banish the stigma that too often comes with changes that are just part of being human. Oh, and men have these issues too! I’ve earned these tiger stripes. I’ll wear them proudly into the sunset on a shiny white horse.

  4. Jen
    August 5, 2017 / 11:15 am

    Great post. You are correct why not speak on this. I’m 30 and ik how it is so I will be trying this. I think at times it’s. Or an age thing. There can be other factors.

  5. December 29, 2017 / 8:52 pm

    Ok so I thought it was just me…no leakage (thank you, Jesus) but I STAY in the bathroom!

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