You may not believe me but being fierce is a new concept for me. Before I started blogging I was known as the Homey Helen of style to my BF. It wasn’t until I got older that I learned what being fierce actually meant.

Blogging is now so second nature to me, I almost forget how much of my personal life I share. So it’s weird when I see my readies out and you guys mention a post I did, or compliment me on what I wore to an event (months prior). The more popular my blog gets, it’s important for me to look the part … daily. So how do I stay fierce without compromise???

FIERCE style without compromise:  

For me that means being prepared and comfortable in what I’m wearing. Although I don’t go a far as “setting out” my clothes for the next day. I take mental note of my options. Right down to where they are in my bedroom, lol. Having fierce style without compromise also means when I walk out of my door I am still me.
Everyone knows, heels on me are rare. Usually I only rock them for birthdays and fancy dinners. So you won’t catch me at the mall in a pair of Loubs limping down the escalators. But you might see me at the market in my favorite purple Sam Edelman flats, a cardi, and some bright skinny jeans. The difference between style and fashion is that your style is totally yours and no one else’s. So be fierce in just knowing that.

FIERCE beauty without compromise.

I’ve always loved beauty. When I was in the 10th grade I was on “punishment” for a month because I stole my mother’s red lip and wore it to school. Problem was, it stained my lips and told on me while I was denying what I had done. My mother asked me, “Why are you trying so hard to be pretty when you already are?”
I fought that question my entire HS life. I watched other girls wearing lip gloss and makeup, date boys, and become teen moms too. It wasn’t until my graduation day that I looked out into the crowd and spotted my mother. I realized in that moment that, in comparison to my peers, my mother’s beauty was so effortless. She didn’t spend countless hours putting on her face in the morning and she didn’t spend all Saturday at the salon getting dolled up.

What my mother taught me was priceless. How to manage my own hair and how to get dolled up on my terms. Finding your fierce beauty is similar to your style. It’s yours! And once you realize this … you shine.

FIERCE living without compromise.

This one is so simple. I am mad at myself that it took getting to my 30s to realize it. Figure out what makes you happy. Then figure out how to do what makes you happy all the time. Once you find that something, living life will be easier. There is a certain fierceness in a person who is living not just alive.

Q: So tell me, how are YOU staying fierce!

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  1. Toni
    May 28, 2012 / 1:02 am

    I really needed to read this. I had been wrestling with myself when it came to my style. I don’t feel like I have one, but I also don’t want to be like everyone else. I also don’t like to wear heels unless it is for special occasions. I wanted to change my style a little because I felt like I’ve had the same style since I was in high school. I wanted to stand out a little more. But, I think most of all I wanted to please other people and not me. And that isn’t the way to be. I’m glad I found your blog though! Thank you. 🙂

  2. Valerie D Parker
    September 13, 2012 / 4:33 pm

    Love your blog and this particular entry on “how to stay fierce.” I only wish the world operates as we see ourselves. For every person who asked “what’s that in my hair” regarding the gray – I wish they either 1) kept their comments to themselves or 2) kept their comments to themselves!

    I even remember once asking in return: What do you mean what’s that in my hair? I can say I am so naive when it comes to my hair, that I honestly wasn’t trying to be a smarty pants in my reply. I was being honest. I really don’t have an issue with gray hair, accept for the products I now need to keep it in check because it is harder than my black strands. I love my hair. My problem is, not everyone else does. Guess that’s not my problem either! LOL!

  3. September 27, 2012 / 5:46 pm

    Just wanted to say I loved this post!! Esp when you say “your style is totally yours.” As I’ve gotten older I’m finding it needs to take less work, being able to be comfortable and really feel good about what I have on – even though I may not be in heels. I can still be glam. I can still be beautiful with my natural curls and less make-up. You’re right though – it took me until my 30s to get this and now that I have it? I’m not giving it back. Thank you so much for the post!
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  4. Dominique
    April 12, 2014 / 3:20 pm


    I just want to say that you are an inspiration to me already and I just found your site about a month ago. We are around the same age ( I will be 38 in a week), we grew up with similar issue (my skin shade, which I simply adore ….NOW), I finally decided that after wearing weaves/extensions for 15 years, that I am going to just do me …and my natural hair. I have been natural for about 10 years, now I am so nervous about managing my own natural hair and not go back to the weave but then I read one of your post about not giving up on the natural, then I started to panic because I didn’t know which products to use and then I read another one of your post about Motions, I love Motions and I have used them in the past. You have really helped me step out of my cool little box into this wonderful big world with all the colors for lips and lids and foundations, oh and the post about what to expect about natural hair, was so very on point. I’m definitely wearing more color on my lips and just owning my fierceness. Us brown girls are doing it big and were proud about it because we all support each others journey. I’m going thru it a bit now (divorce that was so over due and job loss) but I come to your site everyday and encouraged to keep it moving and look good while doing it. I’m going to rock my natural and look and FEEL FAB while doin it!!

    Thanks Boo!!

    P.S. You are my BFF in my head…..hahahahahahaha Love your site, keep doing what you’re doing because it matters alot to all of us!!

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