Believe it or not, for us twenty-something-year olds, Beyoncé has been in our life for more than half of it. When Destiny’s Child dropped their first album in 1998, I was 10. I remember sitting in orchestra class, the day after The Writings on The Wall came out, and having a debate with a group of girls on why Beyoncé was the only one that ever sang lead. “Uh… cuz her mama is the designer and her daddy is their manager, why do you think she only sings lead?” I said. (Yes, I’ve been this snarky for a looooong time, believe it or not).
Even back then I knew that Destiny’s Child was really Beyonce’s Destiny, and I was not surprised when her first solo album, Dangerously In Love, went quadruple, million, trillion, gazillion platinum in 2003 (yeah, I totally made that up). She proceeded to singlehandedly take over the music industry. Since then, King Bey has given us so many nuggets of womanly wisdom, such as what a “Freakum Dress” is and what in the world “surfboard(t)” means.
Here is my list of the top ten things Yonce has graced us over the years.
10. Be Confident (Get Me Bodied, Diva, Ego)
Beyoncé is by far the queen of confidence and sass, and her songs are proof of that. She has so many songs in her arsensal that just make you want to jump up, throw on your flyest dress, and take over the world! Get Me Bodied is literally a song about her getting dressed for the evening, preparing to hit the town with her girls and lookin’ good while doing it. Love it, love it, love it!
9. Let His @$$ Go (Irreplaceable, Me, Myself & I)
Beyoncé did an awesome job reminding no-good boyfriends everywhere that they certainly are not “Irreplaceable” and we could have another man in our midst within a matters of moments if we wanted to. During my most recent break-up, Me, Myself & I became my personal anthem. Every woman’s been there at least once, a little heartbroken but determined to move on with her life. You’ve gotta shake off that last relationship, reunite with your girls and throw on some Beyoncé while you burn his pictures. Its only right.
8. You Can Be A Lady and Freak At The Same Time (That’s How You Like It, Rocket, Partition, Speechless)
Man, who knew Beyoncé was such a nasty girl? The normally sweet and demure Ms. Knowles let loose her inner sex goddess on a few of my favorite songs over the years. She is normally viewed as quiet and reserved (when she’s not in Sasha Fierce mode, of course), but Beyoncé let us know real quick that she’s definitely a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets. Bey lets it all hang out on the track about her sex life with her husband, Jay-Z, especially on her newest album, that is the most sexually revealing of all of her works to date. So its cool to be a little freaky; but only with your main man, ladies.
7. Its Okay to Be Vulnerable Sometimes (Scared of Lonely, Resentment, Broken-Hearted Girl, Jealous)
We all go through negative emotions, even our girl Beyoncé. While most of her work is generally upbeat, happy songs, she does show a more somber side sometime. All women go through heartbreak, disappointment from time tot time, and she’s serenaded us through some of those sad times, too.
6. Be Single and Fabulous (Single Ladies, Party)
Don’t hang your head while your ex tries to play with your emotions and push up on other girls in front of you! Turn on your fabulosity and flaunt what he lost right in his face! Beyoncé has taught us that the best way to get over a man to be awesomely amazing and super sexy, despite the pain he might have caused.
5. Stand For Your Man (Dangerously in Love, ’03 Bonnie & Clyde, Crazy In Love, Rather Die Young, Countdown)
If we don’t know anything about Beyoncé, we know that she is madly in love with her hubby, her best friend, and her “baby daddy,” Jay-Z. She named her most recent tour The Mrs. Carter Show, in tribute to her life as a married woman and mama, and she is obviously very dedicated to her husband and daughter. She’s been singing about Jay-Z since they started dating in 2003, and hasn’t skipped a beat since. I listen to Dangerously In Love and just hope that one day I’ll find someone that’ll make me feel like that, too. Aww!
4. Be Fierce! (Flawless, Diva)
Beyoncé knows exactly what to say and how to sing it to bring out the diva in all of us. You put on Diva, or so many other of her songs, and you can just feel your own version of Sasha Fierce come alive inside! The sista is bad, and she knows it! Her fierceness just comes through those speakers and gives us life, Yaaaaaaassssss! (As the stans would say 😉
3. How to Give a Proper Strip Tease (Dance For You, Nasty Girl, Rocket)
I think every woman has that one song that can turn her into a private dancer (even if it is just in her bathroom mirror or in the shower) and Beyonce’s Dance for You is mine. Its not too fast, not too slow, and its definitely super sexy. And did you see that video?! Ah! If your guy ever request an extra special private dance, put on some Beyonce and show him why he’s the luckiest guy on earth.
2. Be An Asset to Your Man (Upgrade U, Ego)
Whenever you’re trying to get with someone, you’ve got to be bringing something to the table as well and Beyonce knows that she’s got more than enough to pull any man. She made it very clear in Upgrade U that even though Jay-Z is a force to be reckoned with himself, she could him just that much better. Men want a woman that can help propel them forward, not push them backwards, and Beyonce knows exactly how to do that.
1. Own Your Womanhood (Grown Woman, Flawless)
If she hasn’t taught us anything else, Beyonce has taught us to be fierce, independent, confident and to own our unique beauty and strengths. She makes being so fabulous look absolutely effortless, and that’s why women love her. She unapologetically lives her life and looks good doing it. Get it girl!
Text by – Melanie Harris
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