When I saw the “You Can Touch My Hair“ conversation buzzing on Twitter I thought… this cannot be a real situation. But it was! For two days, naturalistas gathered at Union Square in New York and allowed strangers to touch and gawk at their tresses. Just so you know, this sounded like complete horse sh*t to me. But, because I am all about the non-judgmental side of thinking, I suggested that we (me and my boo Danielle) head out for day two of this movement and see what all of this hoopla was about. https://twitter.com/gorgeousingrey/status/343517089836974080
If you were a dude looking for a hot date–you should have been there! I was greeted with an array of gorgeous brown girls all with fabulous curly afros, twist-outs, and locs. What I didn’t expect was the conversation that would lead me to think heavily on self-esteem, good vs. bad hair, and race relations in America. The main topic, on whether touching our hair should be ok or not, was split. One group of girls were totally ok with people touching their hair (with permission that is). And then there was a group of
very aggy girls who felt the idea of strangers touching their hair was degrading, disrespectful, and had the same intentions of a petting zoo.
My opinions lies somewhere in the middle of this conversation. People often just stare at my hair, and some muster up enough nerve to ask can they touch it all while reaching for my curls. Talk about annoying! But I still smile and thank them for all of the compliments that they really feel are original thoughts that I haven’t heard all day. But to say I felt disrespected is a bit of a stretch. I tried asking one of the girls why she felt this way. She explained that no one is walking around touching white people’s hair, and she also questioned why we should have to educate other races about our hair. I think this thinking is just ignorant. And it’s what will always keep up separated as races. We are different. Plain. And. Simple. So let’s learn about those differences and celebrate them. I mean, in an intimate setting of good girlfriends, I twirl my white homies hair all the time. It feels different. Not good, or bad–just different.
I’d like to see where this conversation takes us all. What do you think? Can they touch your hair or not? Chime in below!
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