My mother would always tell me that I was a firecracker of a child. I was the kid always daring others to do crazy things in our neighborhood and I’d willingly accept even crazier challenges from my peers. I’ve allowed that firecracker mentality to kinda spill over into womanhood. But it’s all a mask for me.
When I was asked to participate in Olga Intimates #FearlesslyFlirty movement I thought about all the women of different sizes that exude confidence, flaunt their curves and adopt a flirty attitude.
Do I consider myself one of them? Meh…on most days, maybe!
Somewhere along the way, coupled with the extra pounds, I allowed the judgement of the world to consume me and snatch away my confidence and my flirty attitude. You’re a big girl, you shouldn’t wear this…or that. You’re a big girl, you can’t do that…or that. You’re a big girl, you don’t need to do that…or that. I’m sure you’ve heard these classic comments. It’s usually when someone minds your journey more than theirs because their journey isn’t as fearless or as flirty. I mean, we can’t blame them our journey is kinda bomb.
Whenever I talk about confidence and being fearless I have to remind you (and myself sometimes) that we are all a work in progress. I’m just a few thug tears away from a breakdown on most weeks but I know my confidence and attitude is truly independent of what my body looks like. But if I can get this body to look amazing semi-naked (read: these bra pics), I’m winning. Which is why I volunteered to post my body inside of these Olga Intimates on the Internet. Because in order for me to be fearless I have to be aware of what makes me scared. Before I can begin overcoming fear, I have to admit that I have it.
Those hips! Those thighs! Guess what? They’re mine. And I’m grateful for them. Instead of freaking out at the idea of becoming an Internet meme (let us pray this doesn’t happen), I have decided to be grateful for the opportunity to constantly inspire you. And I know you genuinely listen to me and root me on. So this fearlessly flirty attitude is really all your fault. Thanks!
I know I am not the only person out here defying the odds of fear. If you liked this post you can thank me by leaving a comment or sharing this post on social media.
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(Photos by Mikael Aaron)