6 Steps On How To Quit Your Sucky Day Job & Become A Full Time [Insert Your Dream Job Here]

How to become a full time blogger

It’s been almost four years since I traded my boring sucky, yet stable and well-paying, government job for my wildly fabulous and at most times unpredictable life in New York. From my mother’s unexpected death, to bouncing from Manhattan couch to Brooklyn couch for 8 months, I’ve got a ton of not-so glamorous stories to tell you. But…I have no regrets and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.

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Me bored at my old 9-5

As spontaneous as my move may have seemed, when I think of it, I did a lot of things to prepare myself before uprooting my entire life (I brought my boyfriend with me to New York). When I finally made the decision to quit my comfortable 9-5, I was pretty much over life. Like OVAH!

I had been at my job for over six years and had never been promoted yet I was the girl who trained all the newly hired managers to do jobs I was more than qualified for. I had just traveled from Baltimore to New York for yet another amazing opportunity but I felt like I was moving in circles. That was January 2012. By August 2012, I was officially moving to New York. How, you ask?

Well. There’s a certain set of behaviors it takes to do anything against the norm. Society will have you believing that in order to live a comfortable life you have to give up your soul, your sanity and forfeit 65 years of your own life for someone else’s dream. I’m telling y’all, they are lying to us!

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Me doing some on-camera work for BET

After blogging for five years, I am finally a full-time blogger (read: my primary income comes from my blog). But if you want this life, you’re going to have to work for it. So. How did I get here?

Got Discipline?

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It’s so cliche. You know, “nothing worth having comes easy.” Or, “dreams don’t work unless you do.” Well, they’re right. It’s going to take more effort than you can ever imagine. You’re going to have to skip a few cool events because you’ve procrastinated on a deadline. On Friday nights when the girls are at happy hour, you might be home writing your next viral blog post. And these are just two examples of the type of discipline I’ve had to adopt in my new freelancer life. Your non-blogger friends may not understand. My boyfriend complains all the time about me and my computer being in a loving relationship. Which brings me to my next point.

Balancing acts will become your second talent

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You will burn out quick (and then die of a slow death) if you don’t learn to balance your life. At times I feel like there are so many things going on I can’t breathe. It feels like everyone in my life is pulling some part of my body looking for attention. And rightfully so, they’re the people who love us. So put dates on the calendar and honor them just like you would that important business meeting. Make your friends your clients too!

Talent isn’t enough…

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As of 2013, there were 152,000,000 blogs in the world (says the Internet). And that was three years ago. I’d love to say that your great voice and ever-s0-magnificent street style photos will get you the fame you desire and deserve, but that’s just not true. It will take a million and one 30-second pitches, and maybe some dinner dates with the people that matter. Whenever you are out at an event, make it a habit to meet at least three new people. Schmooze with everyone you come in contact with. You never know where someone will end up next year. That lousy makeup counter is probably not her last stop in life. And if they remember how friendly and nice you were to them, they could be the person recommending you for that HUGE blogger campaign that could catapult your blogging career. Besides, being nice is what you’re supposed to do anyways. I’m sure that’s in the bibles somewhere.

If it’s not on the schedule… 

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Sometimes we can get distracted and off track with various disturbances (gurl, social media can be the devil), but that can easily be fixed with a schedule. Making a schedule helps you control the time you spend on doing one thing. But don’t focus so much on time that it overpowers your work, but keeping an eye on the clock won’t hurt anybody.

Fail to plan and, well you know the rest…

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Having a game plan beforehand will set you up for major success because you aren’t spending extra time figuring out what you need to do every hour and minute of the day. Make goals and take some time each night before you go to bed and go over your list. Determine what you need to do in order to check things off of your list and complete your goals. This will help cut out any loafing around on what needs to be done. Also consider the amount of time it may take to do these things and carve out a window for that time, so you save even more of it. Next thing you know, you will have time to get something extra done (like go to happy hour) and things will move along faster.

And lastly…

KICK FEAR’S BUTT!

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I cannot stress enough how important this is. Fear comes in many different forms. Not only will you create a 500-page book of excuses, your friends will also be fearful for you as well. So keep your dreams close, guard them like the gold they are. It’s natural to want to scream your ideas to the world, but sometimes the world isn’t ready. This means your great idea might be a secret for a while. Which is ok, because when it’s ready…BOOM!

Although I wrote about my experience, you can easily replace “blogger” with whatever your dreams are! So here’s where I ask you to share your story. If you liked this post you can thank me by leaving a comment or sharing this post on social media.


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47 Comments

  1. Nicole
    May 26, 2015 / 2:31 pm

    Thanks for this!!! Love the info! Especially wanting to throw in the towel being an esthetician for someone else’s business!!!

  2. May 26, 2015 / 2:36 pm

    Great post! Exactly what I needed. Keep up the amazing work, Ty! 🙂

  3. May 26, 2015 / 2:41 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. Even though the tips are things I’ve heard before it just made so much more sense and made me realize the areas I’m struggling in! #blmgirl

  4. Shawnte
    May 26, 2015 / 2:53 pm

    Love this

  5. Krystal
    May 26, 2015 / 3:48 pm

    Congrats on your success. You are right about us being lied to. Sad to see so many creative people and ideas never being brought to light. Thanks for sharing your knowledge

  6. Leneika
    May 26, 2015 / 4:15 pm

    Yes indeed, it’s all true. You and your vision and dream must always be one! As friends and family can unintentionally kill the dream before you get a chance to fully launch out. Nurse, feed and take extra care of your dream while working on it so it can have s real chance to bloom and come to fruition. Great read!!! Lots of take always. Thank you!

  7. May 26, 2015 / 6:17 pm

    Thank you for this! It is everything I know in my head and some of what I seem to struggle with getting in my heart and actions.

  8. May 26, 2015 / 6:27 pm

    Fantastic post, and great timing for me as I consider my self-employment options!

  9. May 26, 2015 / 9:22 pm

    I can’t wait to get to this point! It seems almost impossible for non-NYC’ers (who don’t really want to live in or can’t afford to live in NYC) with small chiren to make this happen but anything is possible. VERY inspirational you are!

  10. May 26, 2015 / 9:37 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story and for the inspiration! A change is headed my way and this post was right on time! 😉

  11. May 26, 2015 / 10:40 pm

    Love this, its wonderful to see that I’m not the only one wanting to throw the towel in.I’m a stay at home mom.lol

  12. May 26, 2015 / 10:44 pm

    Yassssss! Yes to ALL of this! Thanks so much for writing this and sharing your adventure with us!

  13. May 27, 2015 / 12:35 am

    Nice! That was very inspirational. I have to remind myself daily of my end goals. It’s so easy to get discouraged though 🙁

  14. Skye
    May 27, 2015 / 12:36 am

    inspired! Thanks for sharing and being a source of inspiration. This year I’ve been big on scheduling & it works!!! #blm

  15. May 27, 2015 / 9:20 am

    Great post! Thank you for sharing. 🙂

  16. May 27, 2015 / 2:38 pm

    Love this. Been with the government 9 years. Stable job but stressful. I’ve been saying for the longest that writing is my avenue to self employment. Thank you for this.

  17. May 27, 2015 / 9:24 pm

    I’m haven’t even thought about what it takes to become a full time blogger and I commend you for taking that leap. What you’ve created with your brand shows and I hope that one day, if I have to, I will come to the realization that I can do this with my own blog. #blm

  18. May 30, 2015 / 5:38 pm

    Hey there! Love your blog and thanks for sharing your tips! You would be surprised how many women do not say how they are doing what they are doing! I asked a fellow website owner about ads on her blog and she did not even respond. Crazy! Feel free to go to my website. I am a financial commentator, check out the media page, but the website needs to be generating income too! Thanks again!

  19. June 3, 2015 / 5:32 pm

    This was a great read. Funny, honest, and insightful. Keep doing what you do…the world is watching and thanking you all at the same time. Woop Woop!

  20. June 3, 2015 / 11:08 pm

    Thank you for sharing this! I am currently working on following my dreams. Sometimes I find myself feeling scared that I will fail but what keeps me going is knowing that made an effort.

    Shakiyla

  21. June 5, 2015 / 11:50 am

    Thank you so much for this inspirational blog Post!!! I have fallen into this bad pattern on not knowing how to set up a schedule that i could stick too, which had been really troubleling To know that their are people out their who are going trough that same problem , make me feel better, but now more inspired to do better.

  22. June 5, 2015 / 7:56 pm

    I was getting fed up with blogging and it hasn’t even been a year yet because things are not happening as fast as I want them too. It never fails; every time I think it’s pointless I get a reminder as to why I love blogging, more importantly, writing. How I support my love for blogging is because I truly believe my writing will take me places. That pushes me to keep going on days when the doubt is real! Lol. I’m also a strong believer in doing what makes you happy and when it comes to the jobs, I’m the friend that will tell you if you don’t feel like working at a department store then don’t do it because I rather be the person that tells someone to chase their dream than settle for reality. Even though there are millions of blogs out there, it’s all about character to me. I am very opinionated and my blog TRULY reflects that. You are a great example of what happens when you follow your dreams and have faith!

    http://www.moderndaykay.com

    • Val Mills
      September 29, 2016 / 7:35 pm

      A GOD SEND, didn’t know where to start!

  23. Lakeshia
    June 19, 2015 / 3:33 pm

    I truly enjoy reading your blogs! I am trying to break into the blogging world but it’s so hard to get a following, find a community, and everything else you can think of I have so many good ideas that I want to share with the world but it gets so frustrating because I don’t know how to get the traffic!

  24. Natasha Blevins
    June 23, 2015 / 9:52 am

    You and countless others can never understand how much you inspire others. I live vicariously through you….and your smile and spirit motivates me to try something that can work and lift me. Thank you for always happily sharing.

  25. June 23, 2015 / 10:58 am

    This was absolutely what I needed right now! Tho I am not going to go quick my 9-5 right now, as an entrapanaur with a start up coming it is comforting knowing there are stories out there similar to mines with the same hurdles but also the same aspiration and dreams. Like you said, “blogger” can be replaced with anything no matter what your dream may be but you have to work hard and plan to make that dream a reality! Thank you Ty You are the best!!!

  26. June 23, 2015 / 12:28 pm

    This is just what I needed to read today. I have been going through some life changes and challenges which include starting a blog. It has been really frightening putting myself out there but sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith. Thank you for writing this post and giving me inspiration to keep working at it today.

  27. June 25, 2015 / 5:38 am

    Everything is possible! Just don’t be afraid to do it!

    Thanks for this post Ty! I’ve had to share it on my socials.
    xx
    Anja

  28. Honey @ 'Holistic Hub'
    July 15, 2015 / 5:00 am

    Thanks for this advice-you cut straight to the point and gave tips we can all actually use! Inspiring to see where you have come from too! <3

  29. July 18, 2015 / 12:16 am

    This story really resonates with me. In 2013, upon graduating college, I had to eat a huge piece of humble pie! I slept on my aunty’s couch for several months, worked a temp job at a window corporation to save enough money so that I could follow the first phase of my goal, which was living in New York.

    In January of 2014, I did it! I moved to the city (woo-hoo). It wasn’t easy, in fact it was very scary… but after while things are came into place. There’s more to this story but the gist of my comment is to say, I followed a similar plan to the one mentioned above and it worked marvelously.

    Like Ty said;

    Discipline, balance, hard work, less distractions, planning and facing your fears — are tools that will help you transition from that boring job to the job you love, from that small town to the big city, etc…

    You can do it!

    Much Love,

    Tiffany Lauren Mason of http://www.TalkingwithTiffany.com

    Thank you Ty.

    PS: I would love to link up one day !!!

  30. July 21, 2015 / 9:48 am

    Awesome post Ty! Thanks for sharing your story, and much continued success to you!! I am on the verge of running from blogging only because right now I can’t see a way forward (so much ish to figure out before I really decide what to go forward with), but then I realize every pitfall is just a stepping stone to greater things if we let it become that. So instead of just throwing in the towel, I’m ready to push harder. Maybe it’s a full rebranding that’s needed so I can shake the funk off and the bitter agony of what’s all wrong with my current situation. Either way, I’m ready to thread down the road from hobby blogger to full time like you’ve done. 🙂

  31. August 14, 2015 / 12:04 pm

    Great post! Of course I subscribed the moment I saw your blog, and now I’m checking out all that I missed before-so. Glad I did!
    I’m still trying to build my blog, gain a decent following and avoid feeling defeated only 6 months in. I am still at my 9-5, so I’m a hobby blogger, but making this a full-time gig would be awesome! Keeping my eye on the prize!

    • August 17, 2015 / 9:47 am

      Take your time and be patient. Building a community takes time. Oprah wasn’t built in a day.

  32. September 7, 2015 / 3:53 pm

    LOVE this, Ty!!! Great advice and love hearing your story about where you come from.

  33. September 8, 2015 / 4:43 pm

    Thank you for the sound advice, because sometimes it feels like you are talking to an empty room. And it crosses your mind if you should just quit, because no one it actually listening, I needed that pep talk!

    • September 8, 2015 / 5:11 pm

      I think about quitting all the time! All that matters is that you don’t.

  34. October 20, 2015 / 1:18 am

    Absolutely loved your insights on this post. I think it’s something a lot of us question/contemplate so this post was definitely need. Thanks, TY.
    xo,
    Jewel
    http://www.styleoptimist.com

  35. Rondajean Osler
    November 28, 2015 / 8:56 am

    I soooooo needed to read this. I feel so lost and under appreciated at work. Frankly, I am tyyyy red of the bullcrap and desire my mind to be free! I want out and would like to return to my formal “it” fabulous life as a make up artist. However, I do not know how to return and get there…
    So I will create a Vision board, so I can see my goals. Thank you for your encouraging words!
    Blessings,
    Rondajean ? #KeepRising #KeepSmiling #KeepMoving #KeepLiving #ISayYes

  36. February 18, 2016 / 4:47 pm

    Love it! As a new blogger for my very own beauty site is challenging.. Thank you for the vote of confidence!

  37. Nikki Jewelz
    October 24, 2016 / 5:59 pm

    I love your blog posts for bloggers. As a person that will be venturing in this territory myself soon, not full-time yet…Nevertheless, I find your advice to be one to print and laminate and have it in front of me at all times. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  38. Jawauna
    December 31, 2016 / 3:10 am

    Thanks for Sharing. This came just in time to add to my Goals for 2017!! Again Thanks?

  39. Denise
    September 6, 2017 / 7:31 pm

    I so loved this post because I was thinking of becoming a blogger because I love sharing inspiring quotes, love and giving wisdom. I’ve been sending a spiritual text to more than 175 of my friends and family for years and I was thinking on doing that. Not full time for me but you are truly inspiring to me and I love when I stumble on to your postings. Thank you so much for sharing.

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