Why Fat Shaming Ashley Graham’s Sports Illustrated Cover Shouldn’t Be A Thing

Plus size model Ashley Graham

Hey beauties, it’s your girl Maui!

I don’t know if you have heard but plus size history was made a few days ago. Yes, Ashley Graham became the first plus size model to grace the cover of Sports Illustrated while Precious Lee became the first African-American plus-size model on the inside pages. This is a huge accomplishment for both of these curvy beauties as well as the plus size community. However, a cloud of negativity followed that which has me really disenchanted about some individuals within the plus size community.

Both of these models have worked hard and used their platforms to empower other beauties in the plus size community. They have both been a part multiple Lane Bryant body positive campaigns and they both represent the diversity that we have been asking for. With all of those facts being obvious, my question is what issue should anyone in the plus size community have with these major (in my DJ Khaled voice) accomplishments.

Plus size Model Precious Lee

When it was broadcast that there was a possibility of Ashley being on the cover and it was stated that Precious would have a spread, I was happy for them but I knew that there would be some ignorance and trolling. However, what I didn’t predict is fat on fat shaming and bashing but that is exactly what followed.

It’s embarrassing that so many plus size beauties made comments that were negative about Ashley and Precious. Saying that they weren’t plus size and/or not plus size enough. Reading the comments, all I could do was shake my head at the sad reality is that we (the plus size community) are hustling backwards. So much time and energy has been spent to assure that society respects us and we don’t have the respect that we are demanding for one another.

As I say all the time…

You can’t expect love and respect from others when you’re not willing to give it to yourself. The sad truth is that the plus size community is filled with women who represent those insecure fat girls that society says we all are. Women who are unsure about themselves so of course they are indecisive about what they expect from others.

This Body by Lane Bryant

Don’t get me wrong, I am in no way trying to bash anyone, I just feel obligated to express my feelings about an issue that needs to be addressed. That issue is not with society, that issue is with ourselves. For as much noise as we have made about diversity and inclusion, how dare you open your cake eaters (read: mouth) with negativity about a step in the right direction. It is bad enough that there are still outsiders who attempt to shame them but THE NERVE of some of you to pick apart women who stand as a representation of you, all because they are not as fat as some of us.

No, neither are nearly as round as I am, neither of them have a bottom stomach like me and Ashley isn’t Black but they are plus size women who’ve paved the way for other plus size women. With the foundation laid, there could one day be a model who looks more like me on the cover rocking a fatkini…Who knows!

plus-is-equal-campaign

My word to my plus size sisters is to not become what you hate because you are better than that. We have fought too hard for these moments to have a dark cloud cast on them, especially if we create those clouds. Let’s celebrate with our sisters and remain optimistic about even more doors opening.

Enough about how I feel because I could go on and on (in my Erykah Badu voice), how do you feel about the cover and the bashing by other plus size beauties? Chime in beauties, I really want your opinion on this one.

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10 Comments

  1. February 19, 2016 / 1:54 pm

    I couldn’t agree with you more!!! Really well put!

  2. February 19, 2016 / 2:30 pm

    I feel like we are all in this battle together! If you see something you don’t like in society.. CHANGE IT! #allPlusSizeMatters

    • February 19, 2016 / 2:41 pm

      This is so true Jessica. However, you don’t have to bash or shame others to provoke change.

  3. Nikki Lee
    February 19, 2016 / 3:06 pm

    Love it Maui

  4. Debbie Shannon
    February 19, 2016 / 9:29 pm

    Abso frikin lutely agree!! 100!! Sun doesn’t stop shining when there are clouds. Enjoy it!! Celebrate these women. Buy the issue. Money talks. You want more women like this in the future? Buy it!! Support your community!

  5. February 20, 2016 / 11:02 am

    There should be no body-shaming – period. I grew up being underweight and would be made fun of constantly by kids and adults alike “when are you going to eat?”, “here comes bag of bones”, “the walking skeleton”, then when I matured and gained weight, it was – “oh my god, what happened to you”, and shamed for gray hair as well for my choice not to dye it anymore. So glad to be at the point in my life where external opinions don’t matter; however, there’s no need to decide what is pretty and what is not based on someone else’s view – diversity and acceptance without judgment ….

    and oh, by the way, one of the models in the issue is a 56 stunner with gray hair 🙂

  6. kayle
    February 20, 2016 / 2:11 pm

    I would never dream of bashing these women but I never considered a size 14 or 16 plus size. The gauge I used was, if you could shop in the Misses section of the store then you were not viewed as plus size. I realize the fashion industry and some people do not share my view. On last evening, a co-worker kept making “fat” comments about herself and she probably weighs 120 pounds at the most. I asked her “if you are fat then what am I?” She realized her comments sounded ridiculous as well as insensitive. I guess we all have body image “issues” in some form or another. As a woman who wears a size 22/24, I consider size 14 my dream size. These women are beautiful and I congratulate them on their success.

  7. February 20, 2016 / 6:34 pm

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  8. Cynthia Clark
    February 21, 2016 / 7:33 am

    I completely agree with you! Well said. It has to start somewhere and they are beautifully plus! So they are both opening up doors for the plus size community.

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